Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Love or obsession?



Hey there earthlings. It's been a while, yeah? College life is so friggin stressful. I didn't even have the time to post anything on my dear blog, even though I actually have tons to say.

Today I'm going to talk about not just love, but obsession as well. Last night, I watched No Need To Tell. It's a movie about a regular high school girl falls in love with a cute guy in her school, a senior. The senior noticed her and started dating her. Things got a little rough because he got clingy and over-jealous. Obviously, that boy's too obsessed with that girl and her love. The movie's ending part is the worst, the saddest. I deleted the movie once it's ended. I can't swallow the fact that such things do happen in real life too.

From a girl that has never fallen in love and never been in a relationship, I want to advise you guys and girls, don't use the word 'forever' with your lovers. It is basically the terms in Obsession Dictionary. It's a big no-no. Cut it out. There is no such thing as forever that you can be assured of. You can't see the future and you can't predict it. It's God's job. Don't get in the line. I'm not saying that love is not going to last forever and for eternal time. But, sometimes the word itself can make a person, a guy or girl becomes obsessed over the people that they love. Forever is a big word, you know. It's like the biggest promise in a relationship and a very irrational one, too. Forever is a long time. A person in a relationship would most probably think it as the truth and believe, eat and breath in it, hence he or she will become obsessively crazy of the respective person and this will most probably end in tears and blood, even. So, beware of your relationships and with your lovers.

Everyone wants to love and to be loved. I know. I too want that. But, we have to know that love is not everything. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend or get married, even, is not everything. Life is not all about that. If life is just about being in love, then this world will be one mess of love and selfishness. Everyone will go chase girls or guys that they wants to love or for some, maybe not even wanted to love, but to just fuck. Oh yes, these types of people should die and rot in hell. I mean, apa guna ada hati kalau tak guna? Mana simpati kau, empati kau? Apa jenis lelaki yang dekatkan diri dengan perempuan semata-mata nak have sex dengan dia? Lelaki dayus. You guys boleh pergi mampos. Life is not all about sex and having your lust being fulfilled. How shallow can you be? Cetek sungguh akal, sempit sangat minda, kalau kau tanam dalam otak kau yang kau cuma nak sex dalam hidup ni dan nothing else. Bodoh.

Back to obsession, you have to make sure that your lover is not clingy with you. That's the sign of obsession. Obsession means 24/7 with you and you are not going to be free to do other things in your life, but to only be with him or her. This sucks. Unless you're both obsessed with each other, this wouldn't been suck to you. But, for the one that bertepuk sebelah tangan, this would suck. Kalau dia tak suka kau, tak perlu terhegeh-hegeh nak curi hati dia or whatever shits that you're intended to do. Kalau perempuan cakap "Tak nak", memang tak nak lah maksudnya. Unless kau lembab, bimbo, kau tak faham bahasa melayu, kau akan buat jugak apa yang perempuan tak nak kau buat. That will make you a completely bebal and kebal dengan perasaan, hence, obsessed.

No one owns anybody. A person is obsessed with you if he or she says, "I own you," or "Kau milik aku,". Obviously dia bukan milik kau. Dia milik Allah. Come on lah, apa sangatlah ada awek, balak, whatever other shits that you call couples as. Apa penting sangatlah having relationships just to tunjuk kat orang? Riak? Menipu diri sendiri? Apa sangatlah post gambar gambar selfie just to tunjuk kat orang yang kau cantik dan untuk tarik perhatian lelaki? It's pathetic. You're pathetic if you do this. Come on lah, wake up and smell the coffee! Life isn't just about love. Get a life and love will come to you eventually. Cinta fake tu bersepah dalam dunia ni. Kau bodohlah kalau kau tak tau mana fake mana real. Bukak mata luas-luas. Jangan sampai kau dah tak boleh nampak mana salah dan mana betul. Beware lah sikit. Takkan dalam hidup kau, takde care langsung kat anything pun?

If you think you have clingy or obsession issue, please do consult a therapist. You might will put not just yourself in risk, but others too. It's okay if you don't get love or lovers right now, it's not a major need in life, you know. Just, enjoy your life being single and free for a while. When the time comes, it will come, he/she will come. God has planned it nicely. Don't worry. Kalau jodoh kau tak sampai kat dunia, kat akhirat nanti inshaAllah akan tiba. Dalam life ni, kita just perlu tawakal, terima dan redha. InshaAllah semua akan ok. Yakin dengan Allah. Percaya dengan diri sendiri. I'm actually not a negativist. I am a realist.